BLOG: 5 Things I Have Learned About Myself While Being Miss South Carolina Teen USA
Written by Miss South Carolina Teen USA 2017 Alexis Johnson
Seven months ago, if you told me I was going to be representing my state on the national level, I would’ve looked at you with an uncertain smile, and nodded my head; but on the inside, I would’ve been thinking that you were crazy.
Sure, it was something that I had always dreamed of, but my confidence level at that time was unaligned with my dreams. When I looked in the mirror, I saw the girl that people tried to make me believe that I was. Unconfident. Unworthy. Undeserving. I had felt like I was anything but good enough. But on November 19, 2016, five people in a panel saw something in me that I had not seen in myself. They saw confidence. They saw worthiness. And they saw a girl deserving of representing South Carolina.
Since then, I think it is safe to say that my life has changed. Not only have I been blessed with ample opportunities that I would’ve never encountered without this title; but I am a new me. After doing some soul searching, I have learned more about myself in these past seven months than I had in my entire life. I wanted to share some of these things with you, in hopes that you will be able to be unapologetically you without any doubt
You Don’t Have To Be Who Other’s Want You To Be
To me, this is the most valuable thing I have learned during my reign. Titleholder or not, you do not have to settle with being someone who you aren't comfortable with being. For me, I was stuck on the idea that I needed to fit in with a specific group at my school. I thought being in that group would make me happy, so I was willing to sacrifice who I was to fit in with them. Changing my personality was bad, but changing the person I was at heart was worse. Sure, it helped me to fit in, but no, it didn’t make me find happiness. I have learned that God will place people into your life that share your common morals, hobbies, ideas, and personality. If you have to change who you are for them, they probably aren’t for you.
Only Worry About What YOU Think About YOU
This one may seem self explanatory, but it took me a while to fully be able to follow this one. You only need to worry about two opinions; God’s & your own. You don’t have to worry about what Sally & Sue think, and you sure don’t need to change yourself because of what they think. If you are happy with who you are and the things that you are doing, then you should continue being that person. If someone tries to get you to change who you are, then they do not deserve to have you in their life. Instead of them loving you for who you are, they love the idea of being able to change you into the person that they want you to depict. Again, their opinion doesn’t matter… only yours does. You will never please everyone, so only focus on pleasing yourself.
God Made You For A Reason
In the bible, we learn that everyone is here for their own specific reason. Though sometimes it is hard to see that reason clearly, everything that happens in your life will lead up to your purpose. I am including this for this specific reason: even the bad is preparing you for the good. No matter how hard life hits you, eventually you will find the light at the end of the tunnel. Everything that happens in your life is a series of trials; trials that are preparing you for your purpose. God hand made you the exact way you are for a reason. He made you look the way you look for a reason. He gave you your personality for a reason. He gave you your body for a reason. Don't feel like you have to change yourself to follow a stereotype, because you are already the exact way that you are supposed to be.
To Someone, You Are A Role Model
Whether or not you are a titleholder, you are a role model to someone. When I was about six years old, I remember seeing Miss Oklahoma USA in the airport. I tugged on my moms shirt with joy, and ran up asking for her autograph. I was completely in awe of being in the presence of a princess. Twelve years later, the role has been reversed. They want pictures and autographs; and of course want to wear the crown. They talk on and on about how they wish they were you; not knowing anything about your personal life. No matter what I may be battling on the inside, these girls only see a beautiful & confident real life princess. My point here is this: everyone goes through rough times, but no matter how hard they are, it doesn’t take away from you. People still see you as the person you were before the hard time, so keep pushing through and be a role model for those around you and show them that they too can get through anything.
It’s Never Too Soon To Follow Your Dreams
Like I mentioned before, on November 19, 2016, five people saw something in me that I didn’t clearly see myself. Though I didn’t know if I was fully confident, fully willing, or fully deserving, I took a leap of faith and followed a dream that I have always had. If I had not done so, I wouldn’t be writing this for you today. You can do absolutely anything that you set your mind to. Don’t listen to the people who say you can’t do it or to the people that say you’re not ready… it is NEVER too soon to follow your dreams. You only get one life, so why waste it wondering what could have been because of the chance you didn't take? On June 28th, I will be opening my own online boutique called “31 Threads Boutique”. I don’t know if now was the right time. I don’t know if I will be successful. I have never owned a boutique, so frankly, I just don’t know. But, I do know that I would be more satisfied with failure than I would be wondering what would’ve happened if I had tried. You will never know success until you have known failure, so if at first you don’t succeed, get up and try again. Again, you only have one life, so get up, and go follow your dreams.
While reading this, I hope you have had self realization of the amazing person that you are. I hope you have learned that you don’t have to be who other’s want you to be. I hope you’ve realized that you only need to worry about what you think about you. I hope you’ve realized that God made you for a reason. I hope you’ve realized that to someone, you are a role model. And last, but not least, I hope you’ve realized that it is never too soon to follow your dreams. Your true success in life begins only when you make the commitment to become excellent at being you. Be the best you that you can be, and you have already succeeded.
Miss South Carolina Teen USA 2017